Make A Plan

How to set up for success

  • Set manageable goals, list the easy quick ‘wins’

  • Breakdown goals into a series of steps

    • Learn to appreciate that you are making progress in ensuring that both you and your loved one are getting the best possible care. Finally, celebrate your achievements.
    • Keep a notebook of questions and reminders.
    • Maintain a paper calendar.
    • Post a personal checklist of daily tasks.
    • Take a daily walk.
    • Construct a daily schedule.
    • Cook once weekly and safely store prepared food for other days.
  • Make a daily schedule to increase activity during downtime

    • Set aside time every day from the work of caregiving or you risk losing yourself to the exclusive needs of another person.
    • Diversions are necessary in order to be renewed. Enjoy a hobby, see a movie, take a walk, ride a bike, or take part in any number of leisure time activities. You deserve a sense of normalcy. Something enjoyable should be built into every day, if even for just ten minutes, that reminds you that your needs are important, too. Take care of yourself in ways that are meaningful to you.
  • Share your plan with family and friends who will keep you honest on your progress

    • Organize a family meeting so that everyone can get on the same page and find out what each person may or may not be able to offer. All potential sources of help need to be informed about the tasks at hand for both you and the relative in need of care.
    • Make a plan with the family and then meet again a month later to evaluate progress.
    • Organize a family meeting so that everyone can get on the same page and find out what each person may or may not be able to offer. All potential sources of help need to be informed about the tasks at hand for both you and the relative in need of care.
    • Make a plan with the family and then meet again a month later to evaluate progress.
  • Make sure to laugh when something doesn’t go as planned instead of feeling defeated

    • Taking a lighthearted view can alter the meaning of a situation that might otherwise appear overwhelmingly depressing. Jokes, comics, and funny movies can fill the void if you cannot find something funny on your own
  • Practice self-love. Be kind to yourself.  We are all a work in progress.

    • Organized religion may offer a fresh perspective, but spirituality runs deeper than any particular tenet or belief system. Individual and group prayer, rituals, meditation, inspirational reading, and spiritual direction may shed light on matters of the soul.